Accept responsibility for your actions. When a man and woman have sexual relations the woman needs to understand she could become pregnant and the man may wish to never be involved. For men the sexual action may be only that where woman have their emotions involved and inside there is a belief they are giving themselves to this man.
I am always stunned when a woman becomes pregnant and finds the man does not want anything to do with them. My guess is the woman is looking for love and believes her actions will bring it to her. When she becomes pregnant and the man has walked the emotion of anger arises and vindication.
Our legal system has stepped up and said we will fix this, we will help you and we will make the man pay. They use formulas to establish child support which make no sense, they charge interest on back child support which makes matters worse and to top it off it the man is unable to pay they take all licenses away. (drivers, corporations, etc) No will someone explain to me how anyone is to help another if you blind fold, tie down and shackle them.
Laws cannot dictate morals, values and ethics for these come from ones soul.
Our legal system has so much trash in it due to law makers who are playing God.
If you are a woman and find yourself pregnant know you will only cause harm to another if you get the courts involved and it solves nothing. If this man was good enough to have sex with and you did nothing to prevent pregnancy than accept this and move on. Allow yourself to admit your actions put you in this place and trying to force a man to be a father, husband or a friend will never work.
On the other side of the equation, the man. If you receive papers stating you have a child make sure you prove your income, pay the money and keep moving on. If your action is to avoid the problem you will learn it continues to compound and your consequences increase. You do not have to be a father but at least pay the support to prevent legal action which can harm you.
I drink my tea and pray that we can have morals, values, and ethics taught to our young and common sense brought back.
